Statistics show that the most potentially dangerous time for victims of domestic abuse is during the immediate window of time when they leave the abusive relationship. Finding a safe living situation somewhere that your abusive spouse wouldn’t look for you is ideal. It is best not to go to your parent’s house or any other location your domestic abuser is likely to go looking for you. If possible, and you have time to plan ahead, make sure you save some backup cash, gather credit cards, and any important financial or legal documents that you may need to protect yourself physically and financially.
If you are not afforded time to plan and must leave home quickly with your children, go to court as soon as possible for an emergency order to get custody. This is a way to legally and physically protect you and your children should your abuser try to accuse you of kidnapping.
Getting a temporary restraining order (DVTRO) is usually the first point of order. Please keep in mind though, that TRO’s can be disobeyed. Disobeying a domestic violence restraining order will likely result in fining or incarceration but it does not guarantee your safety.
Please use your best judgment to protect yourself, your children, and your important possessions until your situation is on a safer and confident footing. Feel free to call us for any immediate safety guidance or agencies you might need.
If you are unsure about your options, have questions about domestic violence issues, divorce, or are facing a restraining order, we encourage you to get in touch with our practice. We will provide you with the information and guidance you need to keep yourself and your family safe.