Divorce is one of the most stressful life events that a person in this society can experience. In terms of difficulty, only the loss of a friend or relative or departing from a lifetime home can be of comparable experience. Even for the spouse initiating the divorce, the significant changes that will follow are most definitely going to challenge you, emotionally and mentally. Just like one grieves at the passing of a loved one so it is that a type of “grieving” process is necessary for concluding one of the most significant chapters of your life.
In this emotional and mental process it is important to acknowledge your emotional and mental states and ensure adequate safeguards for keeping your healing stage a healthy and balanced one through what we call safe-care. Self-care means to partake in actions that consciously tend and care for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Do not hesitate to seek guidance from a therapist or type of spiritual or social adviser. If you research there are affordable counseling programs or practitioners available through mental health care networks and local community wellness centers. If involved in a spiritual community it is also like you will find a helpful ear or counseling there as well. If children are involved in the divorce having these self-care options available for your children is also important for their well being.
Thinking “therapy” is not for you during a time like this is usually a defensive ego talking. Self-reflecting and a skilled open-eared friend is helpful to anyone in these ever shifting social times. Take time to consider it and what type of therapy might work for you. If you’re not feeling the thought of “counseling” social empowerment groups like a divorce support group or similar would be worth looking into.
Also, if “mushy” talk therapy is not to your liking how about more body-based approaches like a meditation class, massage, or beginners yoga/stretching classes. Ending a significant life factor opens the door to occupy it with new and healthier factors. You are always free to stop and change options at your will. Let this divorce transition be your cue to enhancing your life patterns and self-care practices.
Whatever you decide to do during your divorce process, make sure you refrain from just sitting at home, moping, checking social media and being angry. Take simple self-care actions like going for a walk, getting fresh air and sunshine. Great that the Fall season is now upon us, the season has been shown to ground us and boost our mood. The season is all about embracing change. Renew old friendships and hobbies and partake in activities that will keep your mind from sulking in negativity.
Last but not least eat and drink well. Self-care during a divorce comes in many forms. It’s ok to feel challenging feelings that arise but listen to your body and intuition and show yourself some love during the emotional releasing process. You got this!
For any additional self-care recommendations during a divorce or other family law scenario feel free to give us a call.